We "DO" for "LOU"

I had a different thought about all this today. Not sure I've had this thought before, and I THOUGHT that I've THOUGHT about every possible angle there is. Lou has spent pretty much his entire life doing for others. He worked incredibly hard for his family, incredibly. He took great care of his dear mom. He spoiled his nieces and nephews (let alone his own kids). He treats clients like family. He is so generous to his employees. He is so generous to his friends. When he sits on a board, he does NOT sit, he works and is involved. He plans meetings, trips, dinners, whatever in complete detail and makes sure it's done. He would give the shirt off his back to a street person. He donates time to organizations he believes in. He will fight to the end for what is right. He worked around the clock to get thru school. He goes nuts over Christmas. He remembers the "little people". I could go on. The point is, we could never really "DO" for Lou. For one thing, he is usually a step ahead of everyone and already has it done, whatever it is. And really, he wouldn't accept it much. Whenever he was sick with the flu, he would refuse to let me do anything for him. He wouldn't even let me do his LAUNDRY when we were first married for gosh sakes! So now I am thinking...we are finally getting our chance to 'DO" for Lou. ALLLLLL of us. He still doesn't like it. He does not like that he needs help with simple everyday things. But he cannot refuse it now. He HAS to accept it. So, I guess we are making up for 25 years of Lou doing for us, for me. I don't think I could ever make up for it. I could never do enough for him. Why does it take something this terrible to bring us to this point? Why can't we take care of each other all the time, not just when we need the care? Another unanswered question. Another lesson from Lou.