Lessons from Lou

This blog is about my journey through the brain tumor world with my dear husband, Lou. While not a journey I would wish on even my worst enemy, it is a journey that has enlightened and awakened me to what lies within us, and around us, each and every moment of each and every day. There are lessons here....lessons in this journey.....lessons from Lou....that I would like to share with you.

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Location: Chicago, Illinois

Picture of Lou (sick) and I at a party, circa 2005, long ago and faraway. I'm now a middle aged widow, trying to get my life back together. Mother of two young adult sons, living with two adult cats.

Friday, September 01, 2006

Farewell My Darling

Louis H. Beres 6/25/36 - 8/31/06 There are no words tonight. Just tears. Godspeed my love, Godspeed.


Blogger Kathy said...

Peace be with you, oh my dear one…
peace be with you, precious child…
angels hover all about you,
they protect you, night and day…
angels over all about you,
they will guide you on your way…

Godspeed to Lou
Give Kyra a hug from us

Prayers for you and your family.

1:57 AM  
Blogger Shelley said...

The words we've waited for,
oh, Cathy,
I'm so sorry.
I know there are no words I can possibly say that will ease your pain or lessen your loss.
I can only say that I'm right there with you,
wishing it could be different,
and joining you
in honoring a man
so extraordinary,
a man so elegant and courtly,
a man so dynamic and intelligent,
a man who leaves behind an unparalleled legacy.
Godspeed, brave Lou,
we will never forget you.
You've done so well, Cathy,
you shouldered this with honor,
you loved until the end and beyond.
All my love,
all my tears,
for you, Drew and Damon tonight.

Looking at the stars
in a black, clear Walla Walla sky,
knowing that somewhere out there,
Lou shines as bright as ever.

Love, Chelle

2:01 AM  
Anonymous Kathie said...

Cathy I am so sorry, something brought me back to your site tonight. The time you have dreaded is here. I can't think of anything to say nothing seems to be enough. God Bless you and the boys. God Bless Lou.

2:52 AM  
Blogger Sue said...

God be with you, the boys and with all your families I know Lou is now in heaven with my beloved Dad "Lou." There are no words to touch your heart and I am not going to even try just know that I stand with you this early morning wishing it could be different, crying tears of pain and wishing I coulld be there to hug you. I will be praying.

4:41 AM  
Anonymous Diane Phillips said...

Holding you in prayer, Cathy, not just for your future strength and comfort but in gratitude for the honor of having known you and Lou through your sharing. May your many lessons learned sustain you as you continue to feel Lou all around you and within you---a part of you. You are forever changed, but the impact of Lou in your life is deep and real and lasting. What you achieved together over the past couple of years is amazing, but especially so among your community of friends who have walked this walk ourselves, who know just how much this distance really means and also what it has required. I'm so very proud to know you. Sending a big hug and wishing I lived down a much shorter road.

6:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Cathy,
Please know that my tears and my prayers join those of all the people who love you. I hope you find peace in knowing that Lou is in heaven, with his memory restored... and he's saving his dance card for you.

Hugs from Michigan,
Lori Ware

6:56 AM  
Anonymous Jan Weeks said...

Dearest Cathy,
I'm so very sorry.I thought about your family all day yesterday. I knew to check this sight this morning.You have been so strong and amazing.May God give you and your boys all his love and comfort.Wish I could do something to help.
Jan Weeks

7:15 AM  
Anonymous Jeff Schweig said...

Cathy--I have been thinking about Lou, you and the boys non-stop for the last several days. I am so, so sorry and yet I am so grateful that Lou is finally at peace. You and Lou had such an incredible relationship...you are very lucky to have been together for so many years. There are many people who love you and your family and we will be there to guide you through this crazy journey called "life". My thoughts and prayers are with you and the boys.

Much love,


8:07 AM  
Anonymous Robert Qually said...

When someone elevates anything to a high
enough level of perfection, it becomes an
art form, and they become an artist.
Lou was an artist when it came to being: a
human being, a gentleman with great
character, a debate champion, the finest
marketing and account man I have ever met,
a leader, a businessman, a husband to his
beloved wife Cathy, a father to Drew and
Damon, a brother, and a dear friend (he
was mine for 33 years). I will never forget
him as long as I live. I feel so fortunate to
have met him, and shared half of his life
When the artist died,

we burned him.

That's why when you walk

across these fields,

you see flowers.

8:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


I'm so sorry. As always, my prayers are with you and your family.


9:02 AM  
Anonymous Angela said...

Cathy, I'm so sorry. I know God is with you and the boys and now right along Lou's side, both watching over you and all his loved ones. I will continue to pray for you and may your heart be filled with peace.

9:17 AM  
Anonymous Kari T. said...

Oh God Cathy I'm so sorry. Ive been praying for you and was hoping not to see this post. I dont have the right words but please know Im thinking of you and your family.
Kevin and I would check on you and Lou so Im sure that Kevin, and others who fought a good fight, helped welcome your Lou home.
Im so sorry Cathy...

10:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

God saw him getting tired
And a cure was not to be.
So He put His arms around him
And whispered, "Come with Me."
With tearful eyes we watched him suffer and saw him fade away.
Although we loved him dearly,
We could not make him stay.
A golden heart stopped beating,
Hard working hands to rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the best.

My heart and prayers are with you Cathy and family.

Mary Ann m/o Eric, Lake Ozarks, MO

10:20 AM  
Anonymous Juliet said...

Dear Cathy
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved husband. I wish any words I could say would bring comfort to your broken heart, but I know they will not. My prayers will surround you and the boys over the coming days and weeks as you adjust to the changes and challenges of life. Cathy, you are a remarkable woman, who loved and was passionately loved by, a remarkable man. Even in your darkest hours you brought such love and compassion to others. Thank you for the incredible privilege of being one who learnt from "Lessons from Lou" - the grace you live your life by astounds me.
I'm so sorry for your pain, and the pain your boys are feeling - but I do know that a love like yours and Lou's transcends the physical realm - and that he will be waiting for you when the time comes, anxious and excited to dance with his beautiful bride once again...
Take care & God bless

10:26 AM  
Blogger Kristine said...


May you find peace and comfort in knowing that your beloved Lou is at rest.
I’m sure Lou is so proud of you for everything you did for him. Now he can look after you.

Kristine w/o James 32 GBM
Dx 12-29-2005


10:27 AM  
Anonymous Nicole said...

Lou left this life knowing that he was loved so deeply. I will be praying for you and your family.


11:18 AM  
Anonymous Toni said...

I am so very truly sorry for your loss. Imagine God's loving arms holding Lou....he has prepared a place for him.

11:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cathy~ You walked Lou right to Heaven's door. Your love and devotion is inspirational. I am praying for you and your boys. Godspeed to your wonderful Lou.

Nancy in New Jersey

12:02 PM  
Anonymous B'Lynn said...

Dearest CathyB,
The sky will be a brighter place now with Lou looking down on us with his shining essence. I am so very sorry for your loss. Lou obviously touched many lives and continues to do so. Yours was the love story of all time. I pray for peace for you all through this change.
With love,
Mommy to Stefan

12:30 PM  
Anonymous Kara said...


I was at a rosary for another friend lost to the GBM monster last night, and this was on the program...

Life is brief, but love is long.

Celebrating that Lou is dancing, perfectly healed, on angel's wings in heaven today. Mourning his loss for you, your sons, your family and friends. Lou is irreplacable in your life...but praying that the warmth and peace of his love be long with you all.

Hugs, Kara

1:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. I just recently started reading your blog, but already feel like I know you and Lou. You've been on my mind for days now. Rest in peace, Lou. Blessings to you, Cathy, and to the boys.

1:51 PM  
Anonymous Jo said...

Lou is now dancing with the stars and remembering how much comfort and joy you brought to him. I am sure he is smiling down on you.

Our prayers for you and your sons.
Jo wife of Terry, GBM

2:02 PM  
Anonymous Stephan said...

Along these last month, your story has brought me back very fond memories of my grandfather who used to be a gentle and generous gentleman, like Lou and who fell to cancer as well. your words have inspired me to rejuvenate some values that I thought forgotten, thanks to you and Lou. Be blessed and my warmest thoughts are with you and your family, Cathy.

2:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I realize how much strength and courage you all showed at this time and throughout this battle. I am honored to have been able to help even in a small way during this time. the things that Lou said to me, his interest in my professional growth, my happyness, and most of all my family are things that I will never forget and that will always affect my outlook on life. He taught me a great deal in ways that you and he may never know. His memory will stay with me and everyone whose life he touched in even the most small way. If there is anything that I may do to help you or drew or damon please let me know.
-mark courtney

2:07 PM  
Anonymous Donna Metcalf said...

Dear Cathy,
My deepest sympathy and prayers for you and the boys and, of course, Lou. The way you have handled Lou's illness with grace and love has been an inspiration. You have been here for all of us, always a kind word, always a word of encouragement and love.

I am so, so sorry for your loss. May you find the strength to carry on over this difficult time. I am now going to light a candle for Lou and pray for you all. Donna Metcalf

4:21 PM  
Blogger Leiann Neubauer said...


I hadn't been able to come to the site for a bit as James was in the hospital. So sad to come today and see the news. You are still in my prayers.

James' Mom

4:44 PM  
Anonymous Giovanni Benincasa said...


I was preparing some materials for Damon's senior project when I received an e-mail regarding your loss. All of this school stuff seems so insignificant now...

I can say on behalf of the Northside community that we stand ready to be of support to you and your family.

"Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
and never stops at all."

-Emily Dickenson

6:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

May Christ, our true God, risen from the dead, Who rules over the living and the dead, place the soul of His departed servant, Louis, in the abode of the Saints, grant him rest in the bosom of Abraham, and number him among the Just through the prayers of His most pure Mother, of the holy, glorious, and illustrious Apostles, of our venerable and God- bearing Fathers, and of all the Saints; may He have mercy on us and save us, for He is gracious and loves Mankind

A panachida for Lou,

10:53 PM  
Anonymous cheri said...

While I will never, ever understand why ... I do have moments of acceptance. When I returned from Arizona, a dear friend (and a most unlikely one to have faith in God) left this saying for me ... he left it poster size, on my kitchen counter ...

I believe in the sun ...
Even when it is not shining
I believe in love ...
Even when I am alone
I believe in God
Even when He is silent

It's tough to "believe", especially on days like today ... and even tougher in the days ahead of you ... but without faith, none of this makes any sense. Hold tight to your faith.

I hope you find comfort in those around you who love you dearly .

Sending cyber hugs to you and yours ...

P.S. I did smile for one, brief moment at the idea that perhaps Lou will find Fred and they will find Dave and the three of them can compare stories about the women who loved them so ....

10:54 PM  
Anonymous Lois said...

Dear Cathy,

Words cannot convey the sadness in my heart for you and your family. I will remember all of you in my prayers.
Godspeed Lou.


1:39 PM  

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