Lessons from Lou

This blog is about my journey through the brain tumor world with my dear husband, Lou. While not a journey I would wish on even my worst enemy, it is a journey that has enlightened and awakened me to what lies within us, and around us, each and every moment of each and every day. There are lessons here....lessons in this journey.....lessons from Lou....that I would like to share with you.

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Picture of Lou (sick) and I at a party, circa 2005, long ago and faraway. I'm now a middle aged widow, trying to get my life back together. Mother of two young adult sons, living with two adult cats.

Tuesday, August 29, 2006

Yesterday

"Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away...." Yesterday, he could manage a smile. Today, he cannot. Yesterday, he looked peaceful, Today, he has a frown. Yesterday, he was trying to speak. Today, he cannot. Yesterday, he took juice on a sponge, Today, he did not. Yesterday, his eyes were focused. Today, they are not. Yesterday, we had two wheelchairs. Today, we do not. Yesterday, my heart was broken, Today, it is shattered. What a difference a day makes.

19 Comments:

Blogger Sue said...

My heart is shattered for you. I love you and pray for you. There are no words . . . . .just prayers.

9:48 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

With you
praying
breathing

love, chelle

9:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

No words ..
absolutely nothing to say, except
I'm there with you ... today, tomorrow and always

10:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cathy,

You and Lou are in my thoughts tonight.

10:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cathy,

I remember leaving my parents' house on one of those last full days. As I headed for home, I passed Orlando International Airport, as always. The flight pattern crossed above the highway, and occasionally my timing was such that as I drove, a jet was coming in and for one moment seemed just above my car. This happened that afternoon, and as always, I couldn't help but duck, cringing at the wheel of the car until the plane had passed. The sound was shrill and ripped through me: shweeeeeROOM.

Later that night, I checked in by phone. My mother sounded as hollow and empty as you sound tonight. Our call was short, but I will never forget her words: "I feel like I'm just sitting here, watching him die." And there was no sensible answer, because she was right. Frame by slow frame, she was watching a movie she didn't want to be watching. Unable to get up and leave the theater or make it stop, or to get a refund for the poor selection in films, she was bound there and felt so alone. Of everyone, she stood to lose the most.

I wrote to the list that night about how it was so much like that incoming plane, in our waiting with Dad. Powerless. Closing our eyes. Clenching our fists. Waiting. Wincing. Ducking. ShweeeeeROOM. An awful feeling.

11:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

may you find the strength you need moment by moment to get though this very hard time.

11:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

No words, just a hug from my heart to yours. Lou can still feel your love, even if he is unable to respond to you...we can all feel your love for him from thousands of miles away. God bless.
Marilyn

12:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cathy, we are all here for you. As much as we can be. We are praying and thinking of you, Lou and the boys. As was said before Lou can hear you he knows your there and he knows you love him. Just be there, hold him, talk to him keep him comfortable. Let Hospice know what you want, what you need. There may be someone there who can be with you. Just ask.
God Bless You.

12:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cathy, Lou & sons,
Just letting y'all know that you are all being thought about right now and prayed for in a humble home in Northern Virginia. Peace be with you....
B'Lynn & Family

2:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. I'm praying that you find peace and survive on the memories of all those years together. Praying for the boys too!

5:28 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your journey, both you and your boys. My heart aches for all of you. I am proud to be Michelle's mother, I know she has given you of her strength.

11:16 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

LOVE NEVER ENDS.

1 Corinthians 13

Praying for you today, Cathy, and for Sweet Lou and your beloved family. Hugs, Kara

11:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm praying for you, knowing how difficult this is for you and your family.

12:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I remember dreading those last moments, knowing they were coming, thinking it would be so hard to watch someone leave. I brought him into the world and I knew I'd have to see him out. It was worse at the end than I even imagined. I know your heart, I know your pain. I wish with all my heart I could take it away. Believe me, I wish that with all my heart and soul. Try really hard to see the angel in the corner, it's there waiting to fly him home. Love from Missouri. Mary Ann m/o Eric, at home with the angels.

12:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Cathy~ Thinking of you with love today. Hold your boys tight, they will help so much. The SFT can never destroy what is in your heart. Nancy in New Jersey

2:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My prayers are with you for support. God Bless.
Donna

3:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tears flowing...praying for you and your family.

Love, Kari T.

8:14 AM  
Blogger Kathy said...

We hold the vigil with you.

Love and prayers.

2:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

God bless you. May God wrap his arms around you and hold you tight.

9:53 PM  

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